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What are your thoughts on this? I'm a college junior, she's a high school senior. My year-old daughter is in a relationship with a year-old man. what he wants; he points out that she's off his hands now she is over Advertisement. No, I'd date a 18 year old in a heartbeat. I'm 21 and I"m dating a 16 year old. Not weird at all. She's 18, it's legal, I think.
Is a 22 year old guy and an 18 year old girl dating weird?
For purposes of his anonymity, I am going to call just call him "Son. Since you are 18 years old, you are allowed to date a woman half your age plus seven. You're 50, so that means you can date a woman who is And that means I can date a woman who is You can date someone as young as half your age plus seven years? It's so male-skewed that it's ridiculous.
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Based upon this rule, the only time that a man can date a woman his own age is when he's 14 years old because half of 14 is seven, and seven plus seven is So the ripe old age of 14 -- the age when you still have pimples, are as insecure as can be and are unlikely to get anything more than a kiss from a woman your own age -- is the only time when you can enjoy dating a woman your own age?
What about if your year-old looks at you and says, "I'm ready to date, Dad"? Do you say, "No problem. Half your age is five. Add seven to that, so you can date a year-old -- an older woman"? There is so much a year-old can teach a year-old -- advanced coloring, advanced texting, and so many other important life skills.
Then you get a little older. You're 20 years old and, under this rule, you can date a year-old. There you are in college, and you get to go back to high school again to find a girlfriend.
When you're 25, you can date a and-a-half-year-old. So there you are in the working world for the last three years, and now you can date sophomores in college. You can go back to attending frat parties and having people throw up on you. When you're 30, you can date a year-old. That's exactly where you want to be.
You have been out in the business world for eight years, and you want to be dating a girl fresh out of college? Do you really want to date someone who hasn't actually had a real job yet and is still going out and drinking like a college student?
- Would a 21 year old guy feel weird about dating an 18 year old girl?
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When you're 35, you can date a and-a-half-year-old woman. Now you're dating someone 11 years younger than you.
Your friends are going to be really impressed that you can date a younger woman. When you're 40, you can date a woman who is 27 years old. So now she seems like an older woman, at least. She's been around the block a bit, but she's still not a luscious, incredible woman over the age of 30 yet. Should I confront her with her father there, too? Should I speak to the man she is having the relationship with?
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I don't know what to do. I'm not really sure what your goal here is - and I'm fairly certain that you're equally in the dark. Is your intention to get her to end the relationship, to encourage her to confide in you in order to improve the relationship between you, or to have a family showdown? Your husband may not be all you hoped for, but he's certainly got a point. Your child is now an adult and any jot of juristic control that you once had over her comings and goings and general choices in life is no longer in effect.
That said, she has chosen to remain under your roof and if your intention is to force her to end the affair, then I suppose that is your one trump card.
Having not sought an independent lifestyle, she has to some extent forfeited her rights to one, and could potentially be pressed to disclosure under threat of eviction. But what exactly would that achieve? Either she would depart your house in unpleasant circumstances or you'd force an admission which you would still be powerless to act on. You say that it is her lying to you that's responsible for the barrier between you, but I'd hazard a guess that your controlling, judgmental tendencies may also have something to do with it.
Not to mention the effect of a nagging concern that your divorce may have been a contributing factor to her relationship choice. I understand and sympathise. It's not the relationship you would want your young daughter to be having, but if you want to improve your own dealings with her, you're going to have to start showing an interest in her point of view.
If she is having an affair with this older guy, it's unlikely to be coincidence that it began within a year of her parents' separation. She may well feel utterly rejected by her father and therefore have found what to her seems an ideal replacement.
I presume that this is something you've given some thought to?
At an insecure period in her life, around the time she was finishing school, another cataclysmic event took place when you and her father decided to separate. I'm not blaming this on the demise of your marriage - a sad scenario that many people face - merely suggesting that there may be a connection between the departure of her father and her embrace of a father figure.