My junior year in college (2 years ago), I fell hard for a lovely INFP. We started dating and things were fun and wonderful at first, but then the. INFP Relationships. INFPs present a calm, pleasant face to the world. They appear to be tranquil and peaceful to others, with simple desires. In fact, the INFP . I've received a request from an INFP to write a post about the INFP/ENTJ or ESTJ relationships. These types are true opposites in many ways;.
Transforms life into a giant, non-stop adventure. Makes everything seem accessible and possible. Texts you times in a row. Is never not loudly singing show tunes. Is as calming as sitting by the ocean and watching the waves roll in.
Is unexpectedly witty, adventurous, committed and paradoxical in the most enticing way. Hard to get to know once located.
Turns you into artwork.
So fun they should be illegal. Tackles problems and makes your life a thousand times easier. Tells it like it is, then makes it better.
You may get whiplash trying to keep track of them. Extremely self-sufficient and capable. The absolute chillest of the chill. Kind of like an encyclopedia, but a fun one you can take on adventures. Has a tendency to disappear for days or weeks at a time. If disappearing episodes are restricted, grumpiness levels rise. Is hard-pressed to commit to literally anything.
Shakes the foundation of your worldview in an affirming way. A lot of unresolved existential dread. Basically a walking affirmation machine.
Excellent at talking to anyone. Wise oracle sent from the future to help you sort out your issues. Tries to make you grow into the best version of yourself when you just want to sit on the couch and watch TV.
Has read every book on the planet and can summarize them for you concisely. Can switch from intelligently discussing rocket science to reiki in seconds.
Knows the secrets of life, the Universe and everything probably. Not as cuddly as one would hope. Inspires you to become the best version of yourself. Unexpectedly fun at parties. Genuinely motivated to see you thrive in all areas of your life and works relentlessly to make this happen. Expects you to concede to their standards, some of which are just plain weird. Like a nicer version of your parents. Goes to the end of the earth to make you happy and comfortable.
The human embodiment of a warm fireplace on a cold winter night.
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Favorite household chore is sweeping issues under the rug. Some of the globalchatter refugees may remember me from that forum. Basically this post is a continuation of what I had written there, but for the benefit of those unfamiliar with my situation I offer a condensed version of it below. We started dating and things were fun and wonderful at first, but then the textbook personality conflicts between our types started coming into play.
I didn't know much about MBTI and personality types at the time I wish I hadso I didn't understand why she couldn't talk to me about certain things and, as a classic ESTJ, I was very direct and forthcoming about it and told her it was something that bothered me. She kept promising to do better but never delivered and I know now this must have been a tremendous stress on her emotionally for the time we were dating. By the end of the summer before my senior year, we had been dating for a few months and I thought that, despite a few arguments we had had, things were going mostly well--I had a good relationship with her folks, had been introduced to most of her extended family, etc.
But suddenly she cut me off and wouldn't return my calls for a week. One day I decided I had had enough and kept ringing her until she answered.
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I asked her what was going on and she answered that she didn't feel like she was ready for a long-term relationship. I was mad, asked her what had gone wrong, and after getting nowhere for 2 hours I asked her to write me a message explaining why she had made this decision.
In response, she sent a trite email in which she cited irreconcilable personality differences and an inability on her part to be herself.
This, put simply, broke my heart. For most of my senior year, we did our best to avoid each other which was both difficult and awkward because we shared a common circle of friends. About 3 months after the break-up, I made my sole attempt to reach out to her when I wrote asking to meet and talk about the situation. She flatly rejected me, saying she was completely happy with the way things were and that she was having a great semester.
In the weeks leading up to my graduation, I had a much better idea of what had gone wrong and got the nagging feeling that I had things I could and should apologize to her for and after mulling the decision for several days I decided I would do so.
In a hand-written letter, I apologized for constantly asking her to open up more and acknowledged both how she could have understood it as an attempt on my part to change her personality and that I should have been more patient in letting her open up on her own.